How well would you say you know yourself? What makes you the woman you are today? Do you have a purpose in life? If so, what is it? Do you know what makes you happy or the things you want out of life?
These questions lie at the very core of what self-discovery is. As the foundation of the household and nurturer of children, knowing who you are is essential to living a prosperous life, and more importantly raising children who do the same.
When you’re so wrapped up in living life, your mind becomes clouded with everything but yourself. You’re too busy working hard at your job, mothering your children, and being a rock for your spouse that staying true to yourself or even knowing your true self makes its way to the bottom of the to-do list. Lots of women are aware of this, but few actually take the steps towards discovering their true self.
What we fail to realize is that though it may seem easier to settle for less, pretend things are okay, sweep things under the rug, and carry on with a survival attitude, the truth is, lack of knowing who we are is the core factor for a lot of problems in our lives. If we take the time to learn about ourselves, how to love ourselves, and really understand what we want from life, many of life’s circumstances would be nonexistent, or at the very least, easier to deal with. Here are a few steps that’s helped me through out my journey in finding who I really am.
1) Dig deep and don’t be afraid- In order to discover why you are where you are in life, you have to be willing to look at your life under a microscope. Some of what you discover may not be pleasant, but it is necessary for your self-discovery.
2) Give yourself a pat on the back- In your search to find yourself, there may be some things you don’t like but you have to change your way of thinking. Look at all you’ve been through and the positive choices you’ve made. Start giving yourself a pat on the back for your strengths, accomplishments, and wise choices.
3)Determine your purpose- purpose is what gives you the motivation to get up every day. What is it you want to accomplish in life? Write down a list of things you’d like to achieve and focus on the one that really resonates with you.
4)Spend time alone – for the most part, you’ve been reliant upon others to help you discover who you are. Now is the time for self-reflection.
Finding yourself takes time. So, don’t be weary in the process, but trust it. Say it with me, I’ve invested in so much and now is the time to invest in me!